You and your boyfriend just broke up. You're sad and upset that things didn't turn out the way you'd hoped. You still love him very much and think about him with every waking moment. After giving it some thought, you realize that the reason the two of you broke up was trivial and could have been avoided. You really want to set things right. But the anger and ego on both sides hampered your communication. If only you could find a way to get him back!
Is there any chance that your ex feels the same way? Yes. However, there are some tips to follow to make sure you can rekindle your relationship correctly.
1. Be Positive. When you and your boyfriend were together, you may have complained that you felt smothered and need some room to breath in the relationship. Consider the fact that the two of you need a break for a while. Use the time to think of ways that you can strengthen your relationship the second time around.
2. Stay Out of Sight. The next thing you should do is stay away from your ex for a while. This means stopping all communication and visits. This will make it obvious that you are not there, especially if the two of you built a routine together and you were important to him. This may prompt him to reach out to you to repair your relationship. Staying away from your ex for a while will also give him an accurate idea of how he copes when you're not around. Has he quickly moved to dating other people, or is he still trying to get over his relationship with you? Give yourself--and your ex--some time to think about whether getting back together would be best.
3. Don't Appear Desperate. Men prefer women who are confident and independent. Your words and actions should let your ex know that you have accepted the breakup and are moving on with your life. Your ex may become curious as to how you managed to get over the relationship so quickly, and may try to contact you.
4. Take Time for Yourself. During your relationship with your boyfriend, you likely valued his opinion and went on the dates that he planned. Now that you're single, make time for yourself. Change up your wardrobe or hairstyle. Make time for your friends. Get back in shape so that your confidence will stay intact.
5. Be Friends--If You Want. If your ex suggests that the two of you remain friends, you can accept his offer. Just don't be too eager. It's fine to go to a party with him where there are mutual friends, or to have coffee with him once in a while. But don't give your ex the impression that you are available any time he wants to hang out. Every once in a while, decline an invitation to show him that you have your own schedule and social life.
6. Respect Yourself. Don't beg your boyfriend to get back together. It shows that you're desperate and could lead him to take advantage of you.
7. Don't Play the Blame Game. If you really want your ex back, don't blame him for everything that went wrong in your relationship. If the breakup was your fault, admit your faults and apologize. Wait for his response. If the demise of the relationship is his fault, wait and let him apologize instead of accusing him, which can insult and irritate him.
8. Apologize Once. Don't continue to apologize. It makes you seem desperate. This could also make it seem that you are indirectly blaming him for the breakup.
If you apply these suggestions consistently, it may not be long before your ex is your current love interest again.
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